Weddings

Well I am currently in the early stages of planning my Wedding and I have to admit that as everyone says I can already see it becoming one of the most stressful things I have ever done. I guess that this is due almost entirely down to the fact that so many people need to be happy with a wedding. Whereas in a relationship it is only the two of you that need to be happy, when it comes to the actual wedding, there are 2 sets of potential inlaws to be kept happy, plus extended family, family friends and a potential mindfield of people to annoy in the process.

Personally I was all for a beach, our parents and a couple of our closest friends however I couldn't find it in me to refuse my fiancee's desire for a 'traditional' wedding. After all it is his wedding too and I think he has probably dreamt about it since he was a little boy!

So never mind that I could probably buy a brand new car with the budget for one day, or that I will probably have to feed an expensive dinner to several people I would really rather throw the dinner over  - we are having a big (well medium-sized) white wedding and I will just have to resist the urge to start a food fight mid-wedding!

Weddings are funny things. They are apparently things that people spend their whole lives dreaming about but surely they are missing the point. What is one day compared to a whole lifetime of marriage. Surely we should be dreaming about that rather than one day. Perhaps it is because a wedding is romantic and glamorous and all about an extreme show of love. Whereas a long term relationship whether a marriage or not, is not romantic or glamorous - it involves picking up dirty socks and compromising the things you want to do to make someone else happy. It is strange then that when we desire romance and glamour, picking up the dirty socks is, in the long run, a lot more rewarding!